Larry Swain now has (what he describes as) a long, boring, homiletic sort of post over at The Ruminate. It's not that long and certainly not boring. Indeed, it's well worth a thorough read and think-through. Jon Jarrett at Tenth Medieval also posted on something that seems related a bit earlier. That one's worth a read as well.
I certainly don't want to be the "let's all play nice" guy but, seriously, "let's play nice." I too am quite sick of the feuds and ad hominems that plague academia (well, and society) generally. There's no place for it. This is, and always has been, a collaborative exercise. We only really get anywhere by talking to each other.